Do I Need A Lawyer To Adopt My Stepchild?

Many stepparents have wonderful relationships with their stepchildren, raising them as if they were their own biological kids. If the relationship is long-standing and loving, the stepparent might even adopt the stepchild, which provides a variety of legal protections and other benefits.

Can I adopt my stepchild without a lawyer? While legal representation isn’t required, the process and paperwork involved are complex, so most people have an easier time adopting with a Washington Bar certified attorney on their side. A lawyer is especially useful if the noncustodial bio parent contests the adoption.

Do I Need a Lawyer to Adopt My Stepchild?

If you’re part of a married couple with children, but you and your spouse aren’t both the biological parents, you’ve probably asked yourself, “Can I adopt my stepchild without a lawyer?” or “Can my husband adopt my child?”

The answer is yes; legal representation isn’t necessary for the adoption process. However, you’ll need a thorough understanding of your state’s adoption requirements. Most states provide all essential information and forms on their official websites, but the process is often confusing for the layperson.

Not all adoptions are the same. Adoption can become complex and even contentious if one biological parent is missing or opposed to the adoption.

Even though a lawyer isn’t required, it’s often helpful to have one on your side. A family attorney will understand how the adoption process works, and can provide expert advice along the way, especially if the adoption is contested.

What Is the Role of an Adoption Lawyer?

A family law attorney can handle all legal aspects of the adoption process.

Adoptions require a fairly substantial amount of paperwork, including releases, decrees and finalization documents. Plus, a petition must be filed with the court. If you have a lawyer, they’ll know what paperwork is necessary, and they’ll fill it out and file it on your behalf.

Aside from paperwork, your attorney will also act as the main point of contact for all other relevant parties, such as adoption agencies and any legal representation for the noncustodial parent.

Additionally, the attorney provides general support. If any problems arise, your attorney can help find solutions. Adoption is often an emotional process, so it’s helpful to have an experienced professional watching out for you.

The Step-Parent Adoption Process

The adoption process for stepparents is essentially the same as any other adoption, only it’s often a bit faster and less expensive.

The first step involves obtaining permission from the noncustodial parent (the one you’re not in a relationship with). If the person’s whereabouts are unknown, the law requires that you take specific steps to try to locate them.

Next, the stepparent will need to file a petition to adopt with the court. After the petition is filed, you’ll need to appear before a judge, who will either deny or approve an adoption.

Once the adoption is finalized, the new parents (you and your spouse) must apply for a new birth certificate for the child, which will list you as the parent.

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If Consent of Biological Parents is Given

A child can have a maximum of two legal parents. In order for you to adopt a stepchild, the noncustodial parent will first need to terminate their parental rights.

Each situation is different. A biological parent who never had a relationship with the child might readily agree to waive their parental rights, which is the ideal situation.

If the noncustodial parent consents to the adoption, then the rest of the process is usually simple and straightforward. You’ll follow the general steps outlined above, which involves petitioning the court and filing all necessary paperwork.

If Consent of Biological Parents is Not Given

Can you adopt a child without the father’s consent? If the noncustodial parent refuses to terminate their parental rights, the adoption becomes more complicated, but it’s still possible.

The court can potentially terminate the individual’s parental rights. However, in order for this to occur, you’ll need to prove that they’ve consistently failed to meet their parental obligations.

Meeting this legal standard requires specific evidence. If you want to adopt your stepchild, but the noncustodial parent doesn’t consent, you should hire an attorney, as this situation is generally too complex for a layperson.

Absent or Unknown Parents

Sometimes, the location of the noncustodial parent is unknown. Perhaps they haven’t been in the child’s life for many years, and the child may have moved.

Before their parental rights can potentially be terminated, the courts require that attempts are made to locate the individual to notify them about the pending adoption.

Steps taken to find the bio parent often include using process servers, sending a notice to the person’s last known address, and more. If the person can’t be found, the court might require that you post a notice of the impending adoption in the newspaper.

If the person still cannot be found, the court might decide to terminate their parental rights, which would then remove a major obstacle to the adoption.

Do-It-Yourself Stepparent Adoption

Can I adopt my stepchild without a lawyer? Possibly. Adoptions have varying degrees of complexity. In some cases, such as if the bio parent doesn’t object to the adoption, the process can end up fairly simple, and you can probably do it yourself.

Another situation where you might consider a DIY adoption is when you already live with the child. Sharing your residence with the stepchild typically speeds up the adoption process.

A state facilitator might provide enough assistance on their own for a challenge-free adoption. However, if you run into any problems or feel confused about any of the required forms, your best option is to reach out to a legal professional.


Can I adopt my stepchilld without a lawyer? Yes, adopting a stepchild is possible without hiring an attorney, especially if the noncustodial parent doesn’t object to waiving their parental rights.

However, stepparent adoptions often go much smoother with a qualified adoption lawyer on your side. A professional attorney understands how to fill out the paperwork correctly, work with uncooperative bio parents, navigate the court system, and more. When you hire a lawyer, you and your stepchild will have an easier time forming a legal family!

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Jarrod Hays is the founder of Skyview Law. He is licensed to practice law in Washington State and the Western District of Washington State Federal Court.

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